How to Ask Him Out If you’re already friends with the shy guy you like, Greif tells collegiettes that while you should be comfortable with initiating a date, you shouldn’t rush things.“Moving from a platonic to a romantic relationship can take time and the ability to read the situation,” he says.This is especially true of shy guys who may guard their emotions more than their more outspoken friends.Waldon agrees that you should take it slow and suggests “low-key interactions such as a daytime study date or tutoring session.” It can be difficult for a shy guy to ask out a girl on an official date, so asking your shy guy to casually hang out clues him in on your interest so he can feel confident to take your interaction to the next level.Whether this means initiating eye contact, a conversation or a date, all of our experts stressed the importance of taking that first step.When you spot a cute guy across the room and think he might shy, Ahluwalia advises collegiettes to give their shy guy a “green light” by smiling or holding eye contact for a few seconds.“Don't worry if you continue to be more [talkative] than him as you develop your relationship,” she says.
Finding mutually enjoyable things to do is one way to get to know someone.” Waldon agrees and suggests that you “invite him to a social service or volunteering event that you enjoy— this is something important and meaningful to do and it will give you something to discuss, too.” When your guy is comfortable in his environment or sees you comfortable in yours, the interaction between the two of you will come naturally and easily.Filled with hilarious lessons from the pop culture we grew up in, this witty, commonsense guide is a must for everyone who's ever been afraid to try-which means everyone. This book is designed to help Shy Guys take a one-way trip out of Shy Town and into Confidenceville, USA—population: You! You may now see our list and photos of women who are in your area and meet your preferences.This makes it easier for that interested but shy guy to approach you.
Unlike more outgoing guys, shy guys might need a confidence-boosting signal from you to give him the courage to make a move.
Even if the shy guy doesn’t return your gaze, Ahluwalia says it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you.