She suggests saying something along the lines of, “I had a fun time and I’d like to see you again.” Though it might feel uncomfortable and A first date is an excellent opportunity for a (consensual, go ahead and ask) first kiss to test out your chemistry. The perfect amount of lip pressure guarantees a second date.
We’ve all gotten advice at some point or another in our lives. “Just be yourself” takes the cake as being the worst piece of advice you can possibly get. By being yourself, and being the same person who has an ineffective dating life, you will not succeed!
Guys who read too much pick-up artist stuff tend to believe this fallacy.
Keep this in mind when you are deciding who is and who is not “girlfriend material.” Being “The Nice Guy” is not an effective strategy when trying to woo a woman.
Now, don’t get me wrong, nice guys can often finish first with women (as my friend Kevin Alexander will tell you) but trying to be too nice, or trying to be someone you’re not, never works!
“One of my favorite questions to encourage this introspection is: ‘What are you available for?
’ In other words, are you truly available for dating and/or a commitment right now, or are you on the fence about how invested you’re willing to get?
People love giving their two cents to others when it concerns something they presume themselves to be an expert in. People who say, “Just be yourself,” really mean “Just be your part.