The first thing to say is that the dating profile has become the lens through which we are first exposed to people, if you’re going down the online dating route (and let’s face it, this is how most people tackle dating in big cities like mine).
This is a very peculiar lens, because it is a cultivated set of information you choose to reveal about yourself.
Amongst all this, it also just so happens that I moved to London in my mid twenties, one of the biggest and busiest cities in the world, with a high degree of people who are single. I’ve already written about some of the amazing choice words I received in this time — the weird things men have actually said to me.
Some claim to have your personality in play, others mess around with existing social networks (via Facebook or similar), and others claim to be exclusive, or cater to very specific kinds of hookup, or promise more ‘serious’ pundits.
It obviously doesn’t include a lot of the negative truths about who you are as a person — but nor does it include the really details that make you interesting and unique.
Dating profiles tend to be as generic as humanly possible.
It sounds a little cold, but it is a kind of quick calculation about the likelihood of your getting along.
And the point is then very much to move things beyond the dating profile as quickly as possible.It’s about figuring out what you think might be valuable, but not letting that determine too much at this initial stage. They are trying to fit in getting to know you around getting to know however many other people, as well.