I know couples who have gone years without transmitting by being honest with each other about when they are having outbreaks.
The person most likely to give you herpes is the person who doesn’t know they have it in the first place.
To you it may seem reasonable, a matter of self-preservation. If you let someone’s herpes define who they are as a person and the role they will or won’t play in your life, you have reduced them to their STI status alone.
And here’s the thing: there’s nothing wrong with asking yourself, or asking Google, if you should date someone with herpes.
The question you should be asking is not “Why should I date someone with herpes?
I don’t want to be the selfless Mother Teresa of herpes.Why on Earth would I knowingly choose to put myself in danger like that? But to me, it feels like you’re asking me to justify my value.