Recently I was driving my 14-year-old son and his friends to soccer practice.In the backseat they were chattering away, and in the front seat, I was the proverbial fly on the wall. “Yeah, they have been hooking up for a while.” Dating? I wondered how they could be talking about these things when they couldn’t even drive a car or pay for the movies.
Orinpas believes that the stresses of middle school dating are similar to those of coworkers dating and breaking up: “Being in middle school and high school, you sit with the same person from 7 a.m. “At this level we deal a lot with friendship issues, but at the core, it is typically about the romantic relationships intertwined.
There might be something unhealthy or abusive going on in the relationship and they think that it is normal or even romantic.
They just don’t have a lot to compare it to.” So within this murky relationship ecology you might hear your teen say, “I’m going out with…” or “Jared and Ashley are hooking up.” Of course, the language varies depending on who you talk to, but in most cases, these relationships last an average of a few weeks.
They are, in essence, the first responders—the people who our children will look to before coming to us as parents, Corcoran says.
“We need to treat young people as individuals who will be committed to engaging in healthy relationships.Every year, during the lovely month of February it seems like things suddenly change in the world.