She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.She picks fights, picks the wrong guys, or maneuvers relationships to end because it gives her control.The Princess The Princess is confident, well put together, and very attractive. She still follows “The Rules” and requires that her man do what she wants when she wants. She’s a scorekeeper, and she alone decides when he’s given enough to satisfy her…or when he hasn’t and is history.The Princess has an “I deserve it” attitude and has little or no concern for how she can make the other person happy.
The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time.
She believes her sexuality is the only way she can attract a man, or she wants this point in her life to be a series of sexual experiences. She posts a provocative picture on her online dating profile, invites him over to her house on the first date, shows too much skin (especially for a woman over 40), and is overly familiar with her affection. Divorced men have no interest in being put through endless “tests”. Older divorced men have little to no interest in remarriage.
The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness. “Grey divorce” is the fastest growing segment of the divorced demographic and ~75% initiated by women. Divorced men are in the driver’s seat when it comes to playing the field.
Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the disappearing/reappearing Pinger, the Couch Potato, and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
(They are men, after all.) She won’t get a call from either of these guys and forever wonder why since she thinks she gave him what he wants. In today’s post-feminist America, monogamy is optional, women are sexually unrestrained and marriage is on the decline. I agree that (no) men want to be put through endless tests.