If you think you might be a serial dater of alcoholics then it is important to get counseling or therapy.
Growing up in a home with an alcoholic parent is a unique kind of rough.
There’s a merry-go-round quality about the systems and functions and habits that occur in an alcoholic home.
Soon enough, that merry-go-round becomes a hamster wheel and even after you’ve grown up and moved out, you still run races you’ll never win.
And ache for a love deep down in the recesses of your being–in that unfillable void–that you’ll do anything to feel OK and thus you reach out for stuff: people, food, money, status, drugs, anything. When I was 18, I moved in with an alcoholic/addict who was verbally abusive and a perpetual cheat.
He convinced me I was special and different and I was so desperate to get out of my house, that I shacked up with him and his mother in a two-bedroom apartment in Canoga Park.You cannot change another person unless they want to change.